Kindness

Want to Improve Your Body Image? Try this...it's not what you think by Gia & Danielle

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect? --Neff, 2018 (1)
If you are like most Americans, you often view your body as an object, rather than as an aspect of your whole self. Most of your body focused thoughts may revolve around changing, depriving, comparing, cajoling, punishing, or improving. The problem is that self-criticism is seen in a variety of psychological problems such as panic, social phobia, PTSD, depression, generalized anxiety, and eating disorders. (2) Take a moment to notice your thoughts. How often are your they based on appreciating and accepting the body that carries you through each day? How often are they gentle? While there is nothing wrong with seeking improvement, when change is paired with acceptance and kindness rather than disdain it is more likely to improve your mental health as well. That is, adding in self-compassion on the path to reaching your body based goals can make you feel better even if you choose to continue striving.

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Love, Simon: It Reminds Us We are a Social & Caring Species by Gia & Danielle

“Darwin argued that we are a profoundly social and caring species. This idea... that our tendencies toward sympathy are instinctual and evolved (and not some cultural construct as so many have assumed), and even stronger than the instinct for self-preservation.”  --Keltner 2017

People tend to want to relieve the suffering of others. However, when the other is a member of an outgroup, empathy may fail as a result of non-altruistic motivations. Love, Simon isn’t just another a rom-com set in a suburban high school. The themes -- of inclusion, bullying and coming out-- are especially relevant to teens, young adults, parents, schools and mental health professionals. If it is considered a critical and box office success it may be evidence to those struggling with oppression, suicidal thoughts, and the closet that they are not alone. It may even inspire other similarly themed films. It may inspire some of us to be kinder. It may reduce shame.

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